Reflections & Reading
Stories & Reflections
Stories, lessons, and reflections drawn from twenty-eight years of walking through tragedy, addiction, and forgiveness alongside my son. New posts added regularly.
Reflection · Forgiveness
What I Learned in the Hospital the Night Kevin Was Shot
A first-person reflection on the seven-hour drive from Davis to Ventura on January 12, 1994, and the moment I first saw Kevin in the hospital bed.
Faith · Forgiveness
How Forgiveness Actually Works (It Is Not What You Think)
Drawn from Kevin’s journey to forgive Brian Adams. Forgiveness as a process, not a moment, and what Kevin understood that most people miss.
Family · Reconciliation
Joyce: The Mother No One Should Have to Be
The story of Brian’s mother, the woman everyone in church avoided, and the reconciliation that began at a women’s function table.
Recovery · Brotherhood
The Road Dawgs: What a Brotherhood in Recovery Looks Like
A tribute to the men who walked with Kevin through Narcotics Anonymous, Celebrate Recovery, Dodgers games, and the everyday work of staying sober.
Faith · Heroes
Joe Montana, Joni Eareckson Tada, and the People Who Shaped Kevin's Life
From Joe Montana on the bedroom poster to Joni Eareckson Tada in the wheelchair, the figures who carried Kevin through different seasons.
Sports · Kindness
Kansas City: The Greatest Trip of His Life
The story of the trip Kevin called the best experience of his life, made possible by the entire Kansas City Chiefs organization.
Caregiving · Family
What I Wish People Understood About Caring for a Quadriplegic Son
An honest reflection from the parent and family side, drawn from twenty-eight years of caregiving. The invisible labor, the toll on siblings, and what helped.
Grief · Faith
December 14, 2022: The Day Kevin Met Jesus
A meditation on Kevin’s last days, the hope of resurrection, and the Josh Groban song that played on Christmas morning eleven days later.
